The 90's were an epic time period to be black. Black entertainment was at an all time high. The music was awesome, the movies were great, and the soundtracks to the movies were even better. To be honest, I am still stuck in the 90's. Channel's like TVOne and Centric allow me to get my fix of all the popular black 90's shows. Beside Scandal, I barely watch current television shows. So here I am watching black television and I see an advertisement for the network premiere of "love jones". I got a little excited. I don't know anyone who doesn't love this movie. In 1997, I was 16 years old. I didn't see "love jones" in the theatre. I don't think it appealed to me at the time. I simply couldn't relate. I did see it 2 years later in college. I was older and deeper then so I was able to bond with the movie. I don't think I have seen this movie in the last 2 years but I will tell you my 30 plus eyes actually see the movie a lot more different.
As I sit here and watch this film, I wonder why do we like this movie so much? Is it the actual depiction of adult relationships? You know the back and forth: the together one day, and the next we're not; the you broke my heart so I am going to hurt you too; the terrible arguments followed by passionate sex. As long as in the end, everything is alright and he says, "I love you. That's urgent like a @#!."More than likely, the answer is yes. But now that I look at it with a different set of eyes, I believe that "love jones" may have set me up for failure when it comes to relationships. I was fairly young and fresh out of my first love when I saw this movie. That relationship of course was nothing like Darius and Nina's. But really, did Darius and Nina make me believe that everything they went through in their relationship was normal and okay? I believe they played their role. Pop culture has a way of influencing the masses. I mean, how many folks started doing poetry after this movie? Don't front, I had a few pieces myself. LOL! But for real, Nina and Darius were completely dysfunctional and I thought that it was okay. That's the way love goes. Now believe me, I am very realistic and I know that relationships are far from perfect. However, my relationship story will not be: we had so many ups and downs, breakups and makeups, spent months apart, but we came back together and we gon' make it! That's something that my old butt has no time for...anymore. I'm mad at Darius and Nina and "love jones". But no worries, I will be right back in love and watching the movie the next time it comes on. Isn't that the way love goes?
Truthfully yours,
Kayren
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